Getting Your Haircut As An Neurodivergent

As a neurodivergent getting my hair cut is not high up there on my priorities in fact my hair has a will of its own so much so I’m surprised it’s not running the country. I do go to the hairdressers but I find it stressful as it’s full of beautiful people confident chatting away to their hairdresser s about their daring plans.

I sit there as meek as anything but I do try to convey what I want a haircut that will look after itself . People will never tame my spirit and I fail why I should try and alter the will of my hair . I’m never going to have swishy hair but secretly it doesn’t mean I don’t covet that thought just a little bit.

There have been times when I have to confess I have trimmed my own fringe though trimmed is a bit quite right .I think one would bluntly say hacked within an inch of its life .So what advice can I offer ?

1 Ask a hairdresser s when their quiet times are and explain your neurodivergent. I’d do this by email maybe unless someone can ring for you.If you feel confident perhaps stagger your visit s , first getting your hair washed then fringe cut that way building up to a haircut.

Getting a haircut as an adult neurodivergent individual can sometimes be a challenging experience. Here are some strategies to help make the process more comfortable and less stressful:

Preparation

1. Research and Choose the Right Salon:

   • Look for salons that have experience working with neurodivergent clients.
   • Read reviews or ask for recommendations from others in the neurodivergent community.
   • Call ahead to explain your needs and ask if they can accommodate any special requests.

2. Set a Comfortable Time:

   • Choose a time when the salon is likely to be less crowded and quieter.
   • Early morning or late afternoon appointments can often be less busy.

3. Communicate Your Needs:

   • Be upfront about any sensory sensitivities or anxieties.
   • Let the stylist know if you have preferences for how you like to be touched or if you need breaks.

4. Bring Comfort Items:

   • Bring headphones to listen to calming music or a podcast.
   • Carry a fidget toy or stress ball to help manage anxiety.

5. Visual Aids:

   • Show pictures of the haircut you want.
   • Use a social story or visual schedule if that helps you prepare for the experience.

During the Haircut

1. Sensory Considerations:

   • Wear a cape that isn’t too tight or irritating.
   • Ask the stylist to be gentle when washing or cutting your hair.
   • Let the stylist know if you need a break or if something is uncomfortable.

2. Use Clear Communication:

   • If verbal communication is difficult, consider writing down your preferences or using a communication app.
   • Give feedback during the haircut if something isn’t right.

3. Take Your Time:

   • Don’t rush the process. It’s okay to take breaks if you’re feeling overwhelmed.
   • Schedule extra time for the appointment so you don’t feel pressured.

After the Haircut

1. Reward Yourself:

   • Plan a small reward or treat after the haircut as positive reinforcement.
   • Reflect on what went well and what could be improved for next time.

2. Self-Care:

   • Engage in a relaxing activity after the haircut to decompress.
   • Use grounding techniques or sensory calming methods if needed.

General Tips

1. Find a Regular Stylist:

   • Building a relationship with a stylist who understands your needs can make future visits easier.

2. Practice at Home:

• If possible, practice having someone touch or comb your hair at home to build tolerance.
• See if a mobile hairdresser can come to you , being in your own environment can make you feel more relaxed.

By preparing in advance, communicating your needs clearly, and creating a supportive environment, you can make the experience of getting a haircut more manageable and less stressful.