Throwing The Baby Bird Out The Nest

It's finally happened.

My teen has a better social life than me ~ in fact they've a better social / work life balance than me.

Awesome parenting I put it down to and perhaps old fashioned rules.

For example he's only seen the podcast talks on Game of Thrones on YouTube his YouTube is restricted . However now he's 17 he been given the option to watch Game of Thrones.

You see it's a good cop / bad cop parenting situation ~ I'm the only female in the house even the cats are male. Mrs Robinson has tried to strangle me on numerous occasions ~ Mrs Robinson is the car ,Mrs Robinson loves my husband but hates me . She has tried to strangle me with the seat belt.

Parenting is like trying to throw the baby bird out the nest.

I'm the one that dropped him crying at beavers and made myself and my husband run away , tough love but with a care .

After all those years of saying 

" put your coat on "

He's brought one with his own money a trendy wool one from Zara.

And that's it he's out on his own into town during the day with friends and he's a quiet like me.

Friends make you , he feels part of something it taken a long time .

But I was part of that . My husband was part of that. Our family is part of that guidance.

The Friendly Introvert

We've become offended over what we control.

Fair play to Princess Leia if she can ( pardon my French kick a s s while wearing a bikini.)


I played all characters when I played Star Wars it was fun , I think I was always in control of myself as a child to a certain extent but I think my confidence did take a knock later on in life. I remember playing Snow White when I was 5 ( typecasting I am sure ) as I had bobbed hair  I gave a rousing performance , but when it came to that kiss I lifted my legs and pushed the boy away going "I don't think so  "


Described as a Tom boy ~ it was the 70's it was ok then.


Now it is empowerment.

Being equal on a equal stage.



Introvert empowerment as we are seen as still under represented in certain areas , there is never an even split in life but that doesn't stop us striving putting our stamp on the world . It doesn't matter who it is we should all strive and my confidence is growing but not with real life people but with on line friends odd but that in turn will give me confidence in the real world.


At school I aligned myself with the geeks , the computer crowd the role playing gamers and they were / are some of the best friends I had /have. And having friends is very important I have choice friends who really get me and my humour and my humour is a patch ( I was going to say for my insecurities but being a friendly introvert isn't an insecurity it is a super power )


Yes I am an introvert and I am proud of it.


An introvert can have and will have dreams.

I'm a friendly introvert.

That's ok.

I'll look for exits if I'm in company but that's ok as I'm the friendly introvert.

I am an introvert and my name is Claire.


If you speak to me I most likely won't take a compliment and an criticism depending on how it is dealt out will see me crumble like a deck of cards, it's not that I don't like compliments but is the inability to handle them . Somehow if I accept a compliment I feel I don't deserve it and will battle against it adding in a put down to myself.


I was at my son's rugby games and one of the boys was complimented by the coach on his game , the boy then went on to say but I didn't do this I could of done this that and the other


The coach said "Just take the compliment "


This is something we should all do more of take the compliment I am going to try and do this .




Kind Regards

The friendly introvert

P.s Is that ok ?

PPS Are you sure ?

Black Cat Day

I've a black cat when Jack was a kitten he was the devil , you walked into a room to look got him and you'd look to find a kitten swinging on the curtains like Tarzen. He's dependable , solid like a tank but when he plays you have to fetch his toys , he comes in through the cat flap but leaves via the front door.

He's Jack.

He's Jack Black.

Likes this cat food one minute then he doesn't , likes being fed treat by my husband only, thinks he's a parrot.

He's Jack.

He's Jack Black.

You can play cat toy buckeroo with him. You have to check boxes before you recycle them.

Jack will warm the bed for you .

Jack is black , Jack is Jack Black.

Jack is family.

Washington D.C Metro

This August saw us going to Washington D.C as a family previously all the places we had travelled to we had somehow avoided travelling on their equivalent of the underground . Who knows why I suspect it's down to my husband wanting to see the lie of the land and saving pennies, hence when we went to New York we walked every where. In fact the last time we used any type of subterranean transportation abroad was when we went to romantic Paris 25 years ago , and that was every bit as romantic as I hoped it would be.

I thought the architecture of the Metro in Washington was quite reminsistic of brutalist architecture it was if the South Bank of London had indeed seem in the veins of the transport system. I loved it where as Mr T couldn't see the beauty of it but we all see the world differently which just shows us how amazing us human beings are.

As Washington D.C is very vast and especially hot in summer you'll be glad to get out the heat.

I'm looking to exploring the underground transport systems of other countries, you can learn so much from a country s underground.

Saturday Caption Day The Cat Edition

You'll have seen this before as Jack is rather an expressive cat obsessed with cake , ice cream and yogurt. Anything you consume of that nature will be met with this look. Cats are so very expressive and very funny , pretty sure my family would have a dog. However I prefer cats having had cats since childhood and I did have one cat called Boots ( not name after the Chemist) who was was very much like a dog. Nope we aren't getting one either I can't be fussed with the walking etc etc . I'm a cat person through and through.

My ultimate cat breed would be a Sianese which I think are awfully noisy but I work in an Infant School so noise is par for the course.