The Advent Of Me

It’s Christmas not that you need telling or anything so why not grab Christmas by the baubles.I have always had to build up for Christmas sneaky in the odd decoration here and there so I don’t get overwhelmed. I don’t want to make it about my Autism it’s not something I can switch on or off .I have to respond to how I feel to light sound and people and judge things on their merit.It can be exhausting if you let it so I try not to as people round me still want to enjoy Christmas and I’m not a Grinch.

I’ve got the number 7 advent which is a very rare beast indeed but what oh what would I want for an advent of me ? 

1 I if course would need tea everyday 

2 To be transported to a location each day of choosing 

3 Cheese not to be fattening 

4  I actually fit into a size what ever instead of just leaving an item in my wardrobe just in case I will fit into it.

4 That my time is meaningfully spent and there’s silent appreciation of what I do.

5 Never ever to do News Years resolutions I simply won’t and will never believe in them, instead I’m much more up for revolution s.

6. To be appreciated by my cat I think this is the missing link humanity has been looking for.

7 Keep buying that tea .

8 Also ensuring I don’t run out of milk where’s a pantomime cow when you need one.

9 Private concert by Beethoven there’s nothing better than Beethoven ( the classical musician and not the film about the sloppy dog)

10 To know I’m good enough .

11 To be myself and know that honestly it’s not about follower numbers on Instagram, Twitter ,Facebook or whatever platform they come up with next.

12 Always be eclectic 

13 Not to go a day without drinking tea 

14 To spend time with family and friends 

15 To adhere to the Bambi philosophy of life 

16 To write that novel and about criminals in a Spa ( true story by the way )

17 Develop said novel into a screen play probably staring Sheridan Smith and Olivia Coleman and guest starring Helen Mirren .Maybe Harry Rednap could star as the criminal a skip magnate I think.

18 Afternoon tea is a must !

19 Invent my own Gin 

Christmas With A Yankee Candle Christmas Set

There is nothing better than in Wintertime than the glow of a candle and even better when it is a Yankee Candle with their myriad of fragrances that are available.And I do love to light a candle especially at Christmas as the light bounces round and everything is so twinkly and comforting.
And a good quality candle is essential and that is why I do love a the smell of a Yankee candle but I do ensure that any candles are never left unattended and blown out before anyone goes to bed.

I was very pleased to be sent this Yankee Candle set from WOW FreeStuff to try out and it is utterly divine.The scent of the votive candle fills the room and there is a choice of candles Frosty Gingerbread,Icy Blue Spruce  and Winter Wonder compete with a starry candle holder.Each votive candles provides up to 15 hours of fragrance and always make sure you sure a votive candle with a suitable holder.

So if you would like the opportunity to win your own Yankee Candle Christmas set from Wow FreeStuff then head over there ( all the terms and conditions are on their page and you must be over 18 to enter ).
So why not pop over there and try your luck and see what other bargains you can snap up not just over Christmas but for the following year.

Living In And Loving Life

Absolutely no problems at A&E when I mentioned I am autistic, professional staff with great care and good instructions at Derby Royal and pain killers for my back #ActuallyAutistic

And being treated with respect and not being talked down to is the bees knees , it actually makes your mood bouyant.My journey through life is much more sign posted now as I’m actually listened to and given the space to explain myself.

I was listened to from reception staff to the doctor who saw me and who kindly gave me directions not only telling me but showing me ~ fantastic. Yes there is negativity in the press and other places roundabouts about the overstretched NHS but I wanted to highlight one piece of a twinkling fairy light in the string of lights of life!

Bit of an opener for a blog post but I pull no punches in telling you about me well mostly me !

I exactly 2 months in my diagnosis and I’m doing alright I think , people can be incredibly irksome at times and this can cause me to have to reboot myself but oh life !

Live to love the life 

And love to live 

Talk your heart out to be one 

Good Night Anti-Snoring Ring that Helps With Snoring

Mr T says I snore but I can't hear it .. any way it's not about me as Mr T does snore and his snoring does disturb me greatly so I was extremely grateful when Mr T was given the opportunity to review the Good Night Anti-Snoring Ring.Mr T went into trialling this with an open mind as he does with anything except maybe the decorating although recently he has been hit by the decorating bug.


The ring uses eastern acupressure principals to reduce or allotter climate your snoring and Mr T followed the instructions to wear it on his ring finger as shown in the picture below.






The little bump needs to be placed on the inner part of your finger and you do this 30 minutes before you go to sleep.Selecting your size is very easy to do the sizes are small.medium and large.The ring fits on the smallest finger and you adjust to fit so one one of the 3 sizes will fit you.


The ring costs £30 and it comes with a a 100 % money back guarantee , the company do ask that you wear it for a minimum of 21 daysFor us it works MT T has perhaps only snored once every now and again and that is it.


For the ring to work you need to wear it correctly and if you're a heavy snorer you might need to wear 2 rings ( I am going to keep an eye and ear on Mr T is to see if this is the situation ) but the occasional snore is getting fewer and fewer now so fingers and ears crossed.

There is a FAQ questions on their website and I am extremely grateful to The Good Night people for allowing me to have more rested sleep ! and so is Mr T as he is more rested to be able to do loads of decorating!

The Writers Block And That Sea Of White

When you start writing a blog post you do so to eradicate the blank page that stares before you in so many different ways and the words they either come easily or taking a little more coxing out. And the whiteness like a blanket of snow slowly gets covered as you type or write away or scribe I like the word scribe it is so intelligent and full of history.And with words you can damn well do what you like and I am not short of words though of late my mind has been stuck on the traffic light of society and it just remembering to pause push that button and cross the road. As I write I see the white just peeking out in between the spaces ; the words they are cradled by the white. I am trying not to be intimated by the the sea of white for it only a wonder not yet told and though it is as I have said a sea of white it is also a sea of opportunity.

And as you have written the first paragraph then simply you must soldier on and write more sentences because without your sheer resilientance the rest of your words won't have any support you must support the precious words that you lay down upon the page. These words that you write you might not think that that make sense you might think that you are furtling around in the dark with no chance of a lighthouse beam to guide your ship of words to safety, keep on going and be sure of yourself.

I am writing because I want to not because I have to , you can't force the words you just have to let him come to you and being Autistic my words can get a bit back to front to at times and what I think I am saying or writing isn't want is on the page or I have actually spoken. I need that little bit of extra processing time like a super computer on a tea break and then when bam I am there fast as lightning.

As I write how I feel gets a little easier and the Autism/Aspergers is pushed aside not defining me but just part of my everyday life, when you have yourself explained it takes a while to feel your feet again ( and speaking of feet I haven't put my socks on yet and it is rather chilly out there and I have a cold ) .

There above us is magnificence in those words there is silent bravery there is heart there is soul there is me.

Tea any one ?