Why Self Resilience Is Important

Why self resilience is important because not only is it empowering but it’s a life skill as life isn’t always a smooth ride.

Emotional resilience refers to one's ability to adapt to stressful situations or crises. More resilient people are able to "roll with the punches" and adapt to adversity without lasting difficulties; less resilient people have a harder time with stress and life changes, both major and minor.

And being autistic this isn’t easy I feel I’m saying that rather a lot lately but it’s true.Especially  as I come up against different situations in life especially after going back to work after 6 months off.

‪Yesterday I had my headphones on ( I could still hear outside world ) I crossed looking round me before I did to enter the narrow lane done which I work and then started walking up the lane to which a car beeped me aggressively. There was no where else to go except walk down the middle of the narrow lane as the cars tend to park on the narrow stretch of pavement. The driver then proceed to gesture about my headphones etc shaking head etc then finally when I got done the lane he was relating to his visitor about my headphones again gesturing this . He approached me saying about the headphones saying I should have been on the path , ( where you couldn’t fit due to the cars parking on the path due to the narrowness of the lane. 

I said this etc but some people are so narrow and blinkered in the views they just like to hear the sound of their own voice.

Now I know people can be in a world of their own with headphones but I have mine at such a level I hear the outside world.

I wear mine because of my autism it’s an unseen disability ~ and I didn’t even say this to him ( I didn’t even get the chance )

You might think it’s just one of those things but for me it nearly sent me home as it riles me emotionally.

Now my come back at people is just to call them a very silly person in such incidents.

Afterwards I was floored and emotionally upset but luckily I had work colleagues to pick me up.

And I mentioned it on line as well where I was offered sage advice and I’m grateful of that.

Being autistic I cannot necessarily articulate myself when I’m faced by irksome folk but I’m learning and it’s part of my self resilience.

Why Your Cat Needs An Instagram Account

A cat the 4 legged friend though it one letter from being a friend and more likely to be a fiend on many occasion than a fiend but a friend they always truly are. From apologising to getting the wrong sort of  cat foot to accepting that your cat is more popular on instagram than you are then cat ownership is here to stay.Fear not I am not jealous of my cat being more popular on instagram it is the modern world , I have to instagram on behalf of my cat , it's a blog think it is a blog identity , it is perfectly cat bonkers and harmless.

You won't see me referring to my cat as my furbaby it is not a term I like and it should be consigned to the same place as hollibobs and haul ( insert silent scream )


I know I know my cat can't actually instagram but you know it is part of my identity and now Jack has to be the Ninjakillercat as Rollie is no longer with us and Rollie so totally would have owned instagram!

Jack has very much adjusted to being on his own and wrapping everyone round his err paws ? and he has more toys than he knows what to do with and will chase stuff then tiredly flop down in a heap and paw them with muted enthusiasm.

And Jack is getting a few strange messages on Instagram including ones about fitness but the think he is he’s been catfished.People are using cat profiles then changing them sneaky ! so catfishing is not just a human problem! Pop over here to see his new instagram account 

Kitchen Clear Out King Prawn Broccoli Mushroom Beansprout Medley

It’s one of those days where you look at your fridge and cupboards and random supermarket purchases.As it’s Wednesday it screams randomness anyway and Wednesday today is 2 years long !

Ingredients 

Ham

King Prawns 

Button Mushrooms 

Broccoli 

Bean sprouts 

Oil for pan 

Soy sauce 

Sweet chilli sauce 

Method 

This is very much whack in a pan and there you have it type of meal.

Heat up some oil in a wok 

Throw in the chopped Broccoli, mushrooms and Beansprouts and King Prawns, ham

 dash of soy sauce and sweet chilli sauce .

Literally keep it moving for 5 minutes en-suite piping hot and then serve .

Quick and easy 

Autumn Celebration

It’s an Autumn celebration and I’m feeling like my year has just begun as myself and my family have been through the ringer as they say since March.But now oh now hopefully joyfully we are all catching a break life is like Tetris and we battle and work to fit it in.

We have dealt with a diabetes diagnosis, my mother had a bipolar crisis , I had an depression- anxiety crisis and I was diagnosed as autistic, and I returned to work after 6 months off .A lot you’ll agree and the ends are being tied up and we do what we do to get through.

So the year begins now it curves round to the expected and unexpected and it’s ok you can clap this no need for jazz hands.So bring on the tea and more tea I say and we will deal with the world one cup at a time.

Help For A Newly Diagnosed Autistic Adult

It's not as if you get your letter from Hogwarts when you're told you're autistic , in fact I am still waiting on my letter to confirming my autistic diagnosis even though I got my diagnosis on the day .I know am lucky to get my diagnosis in confirming why at times I feel fractured it  it very much like feeling you're Humpty Dumpty and it is a myth that us Autistics can not be empathetic. And I really don't mind me autistic in fact I like being me I am still me but it like being dropped in the middle of the ocean.

If you're under 30 and in derby then you can approach Umbrella for help and support after your diagnosis but if like me you're on the right side of 40 there is nothing but relief from a diagnosis.There are local groups out there and this is where looking on line helps from example the Autism society . There is a local group to me which I have yet to join I am doing stuff at my own pace as each and every day brings its trials tribulations or joy.


Auditory overload is my biggest nemesis especially combined with a roomy auditory space so at the moment I am going between earplugs and headphones and I have just ordered some headphones that will cut out so much noise.Do I want to be different yes and no do I wish I had been diagnosed sooner and my disability had been understood at school yes but life isn't how we always want it to be. It is about striving once you know and doing your best to be you and I can be empathetic I am not a robot without emotions . My brain wiring is different and that is the thing Autism is a spectrum situation condition and how I act and fail will be different to the next autistic person.