Why Self Resilience Is Important

Why self resilience is important because not only is it empowering but it’s a life skill as life isn’t always a smooth ride.

Emotional resilience refers to one's ability to adapt to stressful situations or crises. More resilient people are able to "roll with the punches" and adapt to adversity without lasting difficulties; less resilient people have a harder time with stress and life changes, both major and minor.

And being autistic this isn’t easy I feel I’m saying that rather a lot lately but it’s true.Especially  as I come up against different situations in life especially after going back to work after 6 months off.

‪Yesterday I had my headphones on ( I could still hear outside world ) I crossed looking round me before I did to enter the narrow lane done which I work and then started walking up the lane to which a car beeped me aggressively. There was no where else to go except walk down the middle of the narrow lane as the cars tend to park on the narrow stretch of pavement. The driver then proceed to gesture about my headphones etc shaking head etc then finally when I got done the lane he was relating to his visitor about my headphones again gesturing this . He approached me saying about the headphones saying I should have been on the path , ( where you couldn’t fit due to the cars parking on the path due to the narrowness of the lane. 

I said this etc but some people are so narrow and blinkered in the views they just like to hear the sound of their own voice.

Now I know people can be in a world of their own with headphones but I have mine at such a level I hear the outside world.

I wear mine because of my autism it’s an unseen disability ~ and I didn’t even say this to him ( I didn’t even get the chance )

You might think it’s just one of those things but for me it nearly sent me home as it riles me emotionally.

Now my come back at people is just to call them a very silly person in such incidents.

Afterwards I was floored and emotionally upset but luckily I had work colleagues to pick me up.

And I mentioned it on line as well where I was offered sage advice and I’m grateful of that.

Being autistic I cannot necessarily articulate myself when I’m faced by irksome folk but I’m learning and it’s part of my self resilience.

Why Your Cat Needs An Instagram Account

A cat the 4 legged friend though it one letter from being a friend and more likely to be a fiend on many occasion than a fiend but a friend they always truly are. From apologising to getting the wrong sort of  cat foot to accepting that your cat is more popular on instagram than you are then cat ownership is here to stay.Fear not I am not jealous of my cat being more popular on instagram it is the modern world , I have to instagram on behalf of my cat , it's a blog think it is a blog identity , it is perfectly cat bonkers and harmless.

You won't see me referring to my cat as my furbaby it is not a term I like and it should be consigned to the same place as hollibobs and haul ( insert silent scream )


I know I know my cat can't actually instagram but you know it is part of my identity and now Jack has to be the Ninjakillercat as Rollie is no longer with us and Rollie so totally would have owned instagram!

Jack has very much adjusted to being on his own and wrapping everyone round his err paws ? and he has more toys than he knows what to do with and will chase stuff then tiredly flop down in a heap and paw them with muted enthusiasm.

And Jack is getting a few strange messages on Instagram including ones about fitness but the think he is he’s been catfished.People are using cat profiles then changing them sneaky ! so catfishing is not just a human problem! Pop over here to see his new instagram account 

Kitchen Clear Out King Prawn Broccoli Mushroom Beansprout Medley

It’s one of those days where you look at your fridge and cupboards and random supermarket purchases.As it’s Wednesday it screams randomness anyway and Wednesday today is 2 years long !

Ingredients 

Ham

King Prawns 

Button Mushrooms 

Broccoli 

Bean sprouts 

Oil for pan 

Soy sauce 

Sweet chilli sauce 

Method 

This is very much whack in a pan and there you have it type of meal.

Heat up some oil in a wok 

Throw in the chopped Broccoli, mushrooms and Beansprouts and King Prawns, ham

 dash of soy sauce and sweet chilli sauce .

Literally keep it moving for 5 minutes en-suite piping hot and then serve .

Quick and easy 

A Handbag As An Investment

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Though I myself am not much of a handbag person I do appreciate a good quality handbag as they are an investment and I have friends who obviously have lots of investments so borrowing a handbag is not much of an issue for me.Gone are the days in the 80's and 90s 0f matching your shoes, tights and handbag and thank goodness for that!A handbag that has plenty of room is an essential for me and one that zips up or closes up fully for security and I prefer one that I can sling over my shoulder though I don't mind ones that you carry in your hand but still allow room to sling over your shoulder.

A handbag can really finish off an outfit but a handbag aren’t just for a special occasions. There are many places to find out about handbag trends you can start by looking at Vogue designer handbags. A handbag is very much a personal choice and it is wonderful to have one that fits with your personality.

I feel also a handbag also makes you want to go places not just that you want to be seen but a handbag is just part of a landscape.People often wonder what to say to get daughter for the special occasion of their 18th or 21st  birthday well I think a handbag is an excellent investment.Any special occasion is a good excuse for a handbag purchase and I have my 21st wedding anniversary coming up and if you say that number very quickly it is no time at all a blink of the eye in fact.Perhaps I could have a handbag that fits in with my love of countryside and walk and my practicality of life.

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Autumn Celebration

It’s an Autumn celebration and I’m feeling like my year has just begun as myself and my family have been through the ringer as they say since March.But now oh now hopefully joyfully we are all catching a break life is like Tetris and we battle and work to fit it in.

We have dealt with a diabetes diagnosis, my mother had a bipolar crisis , I had an depression- anxiety crisis and I was diagnosed as autistic, and I returned to work after 6 months off .A lot you’ll agree and the ends are being tied up and we do what we do to get through.

So the year begins now it curves round to the expected and unexpected and it’s ok you can clap this no need for jazz hands.So bring on the tea and more tea I say and we will deal with the world one cup at a time.