Help For A Newly Diagnosed Autistic Adult

It's not as if you get your letter from Hogwarts when you're told you're autistic , in fact I am still waiting on my letter to confirming my autistic diagnosis even though I got my diagnosis on the day .I know am lucky to get my diagnosis in confirming why at times I feel fractured it  it very much like feeling you're Humpty Dumpty and it is a myth that us Autistics can not be empathetic. And I really don't mind me autistic in fact I like being me I am still me but it like being dropped in the middle of the ocean.

If you're under 30 and in derby then you can approach Umbrella for help and support after your diagnosis but if like me you're on the right side of 40 there is nothing but relief from a diagnosis.There are local groups out there and this is where looking on line helps from example the Autism society . There is a local group to me which I have yet to join I am doing stuff at my own pace as each and every day brings its trials tribulations or joy.


Auditory overload is my biggest nemesis especially combined with a roomy auditory space so at the moment I am going between earplugs and headphones and I have just ordered some headphones that will cut out so much noise.Do I want to be different yes and no do I wish I had been diagnosed sooner and my disability had been understood at school yes but life isn't how we always want it to be. It is about striving once you know and doing your best to be you and I can be empathetic I am not a robot without emotions . My brain wiring is different and that is the thing Autism is a spectrum situation condition and how I act and fail will be different to the next autistic person.

Love Of #HiddenCalke National Trust

You not only make use of your National Trust membership in summer but you can do so all year round , it is an excellent way not only to get out and about but also witness the changing of the seasons.And there is nothing finer than the Autumnal bounty of leaves and colour.

Enchanted is what National Trust gardens are a pure glimpse into a time gone by.See a leaf fall into existence, see a water can left as if the head gardener has only just gone away. I don’t live far from Calke Abbey and #HiddenCalke is very much in abundance.

It’s a favourite place of my to potter and wander round because every corner of the gardens beckons you forth.There is still flowers heralding their blooms at Calke.

Ten Things I Love About Tea

I’m pretty sure that there are more than ten things I love about tea , tea is life .

Tea is the beginning the middle and the end there is no debate and tea won’t leave you , tea is your companion.

Now I’m Claire and I’m autistic and I really do like tea and whilst I’m not huge in conversations and noise as a result of said Autism.Tea is a huge passion of mine I was asked in my assessment “ what would happen if someone drank out of your favourite mug ?”

Gosh 

Replying “ I said if that situation was to occur and that would be rare as I make the tea myself.It would irk me a bit if they had a favourite mug but I have so many it wouldn’t matter a great deal .

1 Tea is a conversation starter and also brings silence I love tea for this very reason. Tea is my mellow place and tea is all encompassing I so very much love my tea and really couldn't be without out my favourite drink.

2. Without tea I just wouldn’t be me Tea is just part of my personality.

3.You just can’t start the day without tea it’s an ancient law 

4.Tea is a niche I love belonging to and it grounds me as I especially get to grips with the diagnosis part of Autism for myself.

5.If you know a tea lover then a Christmas gift or a gift anytime is never a problem take this for example (it’s a bit pink and I don’t really do pink but there’s a cat ) 

It’s £3 from Sainsbury’s which is a complete steal ( obviously do pay for it with shiny coins !)

6. Tea no matter if you’re happy sad or distraught Tea is the thread that bines us.

7.I really do give a lot of thought to tea and I would lost without it.

8. A bad cup of tea is a traversity upon the world and a waste of an opportunity.

9. Tea won’t lead you astray like that floosie coffee and it won’t leave anxious and remonstrating against the world.

10 My iron Will is as strong as the colour of my tea which must be a strong golden colour.They say religion starts wars but you get people started on the colour of the perfect cup of tea then it’s like nuclear war.Serve tea like Gnats urine and you’ll be locked up in the Tower of London.

Halloumi Carrot Chickpea Salad Wrap

Halloumi Carrot Chickpea Salad Wrap 

Just because it is Autumn doesn't mean you can't have a salad as I am trying to be be frugal with the household budget ( I mean I haven't even brought a new bobble hat for Autumn yet though I have my eye or one or 2 ! )

Ingredients

Carrots

Halloumi (  Grilled if you want ) you could cube it

Coarsely grated carrot ( works much better I think than finely grated it s less soggy in my opinion )

Chick peas drained and rinsed

Minced garlic clove

lemon juice squirt add in zest if you have a real lemon to hand

3 Tablespoons of extra virgin oil

Salt and pepper seasoning

chopped greens of your choice



Method

1.Whisk  the lemon juice (zest ) together along with the oil and salt and pepper.

2. Add the chickpeas and carrots and Halloumi

3.At the last minute add in the greens/salad

This is perfect in a wrap !

Autism And Being My Own Hero

Well here we are 2 weeks into an autism diagnosis and I can confirm it is rather like a super hero trying with their identity , I am no different to how I was before if anything I am a little more assertive in my outlook to a certain extent.Noise I have to say is a big factor and too much noise put will lead to my ears buzzing like an rather instant alarm clock.I do however like to listen to Classic FM it panders to my intellectual side and whilst I don't like the unexpected ( like the Spanish inquisition ) I can savour and relish the tunes of a rather silky concerto .


Tone is voice with autism is separate I do suffer from and to illustrate the point myself and a find could have the same news and whilst inwardly I would be excited it is how you convey the news outwardly.And the person maybe without the autism will have more reaction to what they are saying , I am autistic and I can understand emotion to a degree I know who I like and if I like them. Eye contact is a mixed bag and I am more likely to give this if I like you , but I am finding people do unconsciously  talk over me. But talking over people is annoying habit people do anyway and now I am perfect valid in my kamikaze lack of spelling and grammar but that is not to say I am not trying .. very trying as my husband would like to point out.

Autism is spectrum disorder and I can be social in short bursts and longer bursts if I really know and trust the person but know my limits is a learning curve as my brain is accepting my diagnosis.I have know for a a long time I am autistic but being over 40 and a woman I am somewhat of a lost generation.But I hope my diagnosis will help those who are younger than myself and older than myself and the same same age.


Autism is part of me and I wouldn't want it any other way