Autism And Being My Own Hero

Well here we are 2 weeks into an autism diagnosis and I can confirm it is rather like a super hero trying with their identity , I am no different to how I was before if anything I am a little more assertive in my outlook to a certain extent.Noise I have to say is a big factor and too much noise put will lead to my ears buzzing like an rather instant alarm clock.I do however like to listen to Classic FM it panders to my intellectual side and whilst I don't like the unexpected ( like the Spanish inquisition ) I can savour and relish the tunes of a rather silky concerto .


Tone is voice with autism is separate I do suffer from and to illustrate the point myself and a find could have the same news and whilst inwardly I would be excited it is how you convey the news outwardly.And the person maybe without the autism will have more reaction to what they are saying , I am autistic and I can understand emotion to a degree I know who I like and if I like them. Eye contact is a mixed bag and I am more likely to give this if I like you , but I am finding people do unconsciously  talk over me. But talking over people is annoying habit people do anyway and now I am perfect valid in my kamikaze lack of spelling and grammar but that is not to say I am not trying .. very trying as my husband would like to point out.

Autism is spectrum disorder and I can be social in short bursts and longer bursts if I really know and trust the person but know my limits is a learning curve as my brain is accepting my diagnosis.I have know for a a long time I am autistic but being over 40 and a woman I am somewhat of a lost generation.But I hope my diagnosis will help those who are younger than myself and older than myself and the same same age.


Autism is part of me and I wouldn't want it any other way

Alternative Uses For Your Cat

You probably sit thinking of the alternative uses for your cat , well I know I do and I don't mean I wish they could do the housework their tails are rather useful with that swishing action.Also it means their swishing tail is likely to kick off several ornaments in one swoop.


So begins an inspirational series of tweets very tongue in a cheek centred round my cat and his demands and whims and wishes.It is pure harmless fun that is taken how you want to receive it !

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He knew he wanted it , she knew he wanted it . He had to have his basic needs to seen to. But as soon as his tongue stroked lightly over the bumps. He knew he damn will knew she’d changed the cat food . Feeding your cat still sounding like an erotic novel ! “

“He knew he could move mountains for her.

 He saw the wildness in her eyes so out of control . 

 “Will you get off the clean laundry “ she said

 Cats sitting on or in your clean laundry since ancient times. "

It hurt , it hurt so bad it was like a knife to the heart. He knew she had cheated before by stroking another but thought it was a one off , he thought their love could survive this. But giving Mr Tiddles one of his cat treats it was the last straw.

He lay there , his commanding presence was mesmerising.

She was unsure what he wanted?!

“just throw the damn ping pong ball “ 

He thought .

Interacting with your cat sounding like a bad erotic novel .

‪She couldn’t see the whole picture and it was straining their relationship.‬

‪He thought this is silly I’m right here and here before your very eyes.‬

‪Cats demanding your attention since ancient times.‬

"His green eyes appeared out of the shadows and he slowly stepped out the shadows walking nonchantly towards me licking his lips "

Feeding your #cat sounding like a bad erotic novel

Gentle As Jam Me and My Autism

The other day I thought of a phrase as it was "Gentle as jam " and that very much describes me and I am that I am gentle I am kind I have a righteous indignation. Oh and I have Autism I have had it all my life and only an official diagnosis since Thursday , and I don't even a T short or a badge to the club.It doesn't mean I have Rain man abilities trust me , I have yet to come across the questions "like you don't look Autistic or everyone is a bit on the spectrum "


I don't see my diagnosis as a prejudice ye there might me prejudice out here but I will deal with it as and when and if I come across it , there is so much support out there if you want it. I am going to carry on being me I am still Claire who likes Tea, Cat and Bobble Hats and it is refreshing.


When I was shunned years ago when things when wrong for me in the blogging community and elsewhere is one of those things and would I want friendship back from those people who didn't know I had Autism well no I don't think I would. I understand life enough to know we don't get on with everyone and that's just so and what it is .If life was how we always wanted it to be then I would be drinking tea in a museum surrounded my cats.


I am clever I Am bright I am me and I have the social skills of a a tea spoon but I do follow rules mostly and I thinking being British and Autistic I do not mind queueing ~ weird eh . I throw grammar rules quite frankly out the window well because it is part of my Autism I think.

As I am only 4 days into being diagnosed it feels like very much like I am the whale falling through the sky in Hitchhikers guide to the Galaxy.

I can hold a conversation though I might get overwhelmed I will be able to tell you this , I will give eye contact on occasions and more so if I really like and trust you . It is not going to stop me doing things I just need to plan to anticipate and humour is my socialising you might not always get it my humour is really an essential part of me. I do feel empathy I will feel especially sad if you spill your cup of tea , forget crying over spilt milk cry over spilt tea.

I will go to blogging events and don't be afraid to invite me places and I will review stuff and I will write about things , I am still me.

Jacamo Wish List For Autumn

Autumn is well and truly up here with warm days and  evenings including very blustery winds and everything in between it suddenly Autumn is a colourful season one I love to embrace. And you can be assured with the right clothing you will be able to tackle anything the weather has to throw and you and if you're a gentleman then Jamaco is where it is at . And of course ladies can wear their stuff as well as I have borrowed my husbands clothes before and not necessarily given back as possession is nine- tenths or something like that !

Jacamo offers everything you need online from hats, coats,boots,shirts and many accessories, Mr T loves shopping online as it gives him the freedom to take me to National Trust places ! Mr T likes relaxed clothing which is especially  important as he has to wear corporate clothing all day at his job at a big worldwide company. So he is glad that Jacamo offers such a range of comfortable clothing , Mr T likes hoodies and there is a superb range from their own brand to other brands you'll know love and trust.

Mr T has been a rebel at work and started to wear dark jeans which he is allowed to do prior to this he was always wearing smart trousers but since seeing everyone wearing jeans thought why shouldn't he join in ! It doesn't matter to Mr T if his jeans develop a hole he will wear them to destruction frays around the ankles and holes in the pockets which means I get any resulting coins that fall out !


And the struggle for jeans for Mr T is real when it comes to inside leg measurement as he has to hunt high and low to find his correct length or take them up ( luckily his sewing skills are legendary and he paid attention in sewing class ). At Jacamo the jeans are just right for him as he can select his correct waist size along with his leg length so no more hassle or fretting if he can't find the perfect pair.The prices are no more than you would pay in the high street either ranging from say £20 to about £75 in Mr T's sizing's.

And Mr T likes his functional footwear at an affordable price as well , he says I have more footwear than him though personally I think this topic is up for debate ! And these trainers bargain price of £15 would be perfect for him as well.

Jacamo has a wide choice and you're bound to find something for either that special occasion or just casual wear as I truly believe Jacamo has it all..




This is a collaboration blog post.

Why I think you need to try AirBnB

If you are a follower and a reader obviously go my blog then you will probably me aware of the hilarity Mr T and I had when first trying out AirBnB it was very much like something form a Carry on film.You can read all about the hilarity at our first stab at AirBnB here but with hilarity comes a range of should I try this again and the short of answer of it all is a big yes and yes , we have stayed twice now at AirBnB and I think it makes a nice affordable alternative to hotels.

You see stopping at hotels especially in the gorgeous city of York can at various times be very expensive it is a massive draw for tourists from all round the world, with Fish and Chips being very popular for Chinese tourists ever since Tony Blair took the Chinese president for this meal.


You might be a little resistant to stopping in someones home and it is certainly a weird feeling but we are slowly getting to grips with it , first of all we go for the superhosts option which is as the name suggests a stop that has all the bells and whistles attached not necessarily in physical form but in hospitality and the affable nature of the hosts.


I think AirBnB gives you an affordable springboard to visting magical places and none more so than Mounts Priory in Yorkshire.