Coping With The Fear Of The Dentist

I have a real genuine fear of the dentist so much so I haven't been in 5 years but today is T (teeth) day I have so much trouble in the past right from childhood with a mad old dentist that just seemed to be around forever . I come from a long line of false teeth owners starting with my Nan and I remember her false teeth looking a the from a class in her bathroom ) not quite sure if false teeth can look at you )

One in 4 of us has a fear of the dentist and being afraid of the dentist means different thing to different people to be honest I am not sure where mine came from but I suspect it might of been the mad old dentist from my childhood who resembled a character from the Yellow submarine. Right now I can hear the old dentist drills whizzing in my ears and I feel like doing a Forest Gump and just running for the hills and not coming back.


The good news is that there are more and more dentists that understand the pain of this ( please excuse the pun but humour helps me cope in stressful situations )

I did tried to search for a dentist before but have bottled it for such reasons as I didn't like the sound of the receptionists or if my husband like his dentist then I was not bound to like what he likes ( pie in the sky excuses maybe?!)

But thanks to various work colleagues who have suggested a certain dentist then I took the plunge and rand the dentist moths ago and made an appointment ( a huge step forward for me ) and I like the sound of the receptionist too !


And with dentists understanding the needs of patients fears there is a lot that they can do stress free with gentleness and gentleness.


Dealing with the fear 

• Dentists are more bearable nowadays ( I know it sounds rather like a oxymoron )
• Make an appointment that you'll stick to preferably early morning * this isn't an option for me as I don't drive so mine is at 5.05 on the other side of town and will encounter heavy traffic ( so I Do need to stick to it otherwise I won't be popular!
• The environment of dentists now seem to be very luxurious and relaxing resembling a coffee shop etc
• Equipment is out of sight and have music playing nowadays.
• The first appointment will be just a check up so don't worry they'll launch into treatment straight away.
• Take a friend with you  ( I know my friend did offer and it gives me courage just knowing that ) 
• agree a signal with you dentist so they can stop if you don't feel comfortable .
• Take some music and headphones with you .

There are all sorts of dental treatment available on the NHS for those who have fear just ask a dentist or your local NHS.

Clues That Cats Do Sulk

People say a dog shows loyalty and cats are just aloof , aloof yes and very much unrivalled in their disdain in fact nothing can ignore you like a cat . If you've not been ignored by a cat then well you're in for a treat when you are ignored and you'll finding yourself pleading to be loved by them in a Shakespearean way. Cats sulk for a number reasons and we would really be here all day if we went into each and every reason why they sulk and show utter disdain that you are even breathing the same air as them !

Despite what science behaviour animal experts think I honestly believe that the arrogance is genuine and the cat is Infact trying to overpower me . So in the style of a magazine story from the 1980s I give you ....

The Snub

"Hi Rollie I'm back from the Spa !! I missed you "

Rollie " Did you miss me , did you really ?!"

" Let's talk about it , we can solve any problem !"

Rollie " Who are you again ?!"

Meanwhile downstairs with Jack 

Jack " I love you , I missed you "

"You promise this isn't superficial love ?!"

Disclosure All the actors in this photo story are played by the cats themselves Rollie and Jack . 

Time To Relax

I've just come back from a Spa with my good friend , when I travelled up on the train my imagination was working overtime thinking that certain people who were in the train woukd be great characters in a book.

From the dark and brooding hyper intelligent Bond Villain.

To the glorious relaxing of a Spa where the world is left behind and people tell all in a confessional to people they're are priests and have a taste for porridge in more ways than one.

Life's a very place for me now than it was 2 years ago and I've not as much panic time ( excerpt st Waterloo station the other day when I had to get the tube to Euston ) I'm so very grateful for those that show empathy to me. I think now I've the right friends that suit me but I'm still learning and I do find conversation awfully hard you wouldn't think it if do actually talk to you . Even as an introvert you want things to be just right so nothing ruffles your world , I'm scared of my own opinion at times but that's changing , different opinions are brilliant . How discuss your opinion matters and I dislike being beaten down but instead enjoy healthy debate so I'm evolving constantly in my braveness . 

This is me 2 years on from a breakdown I might short circuit at times but the repair time is quicker .

  

Williamson Tea

Tea that helps the habitat of elephants has to be a good thing.



There is a train of thought saying you shouldn't add milk to Earl Grey as the oil of Bermongment is citrus after all and will curdle., but the only way it will curdle is if you add in the milk before so add a spot of milk in after and everything will be



"Ticka Tea Boo "


Williamson Tea


Williamson Tea has a tremendous heritage they are 5th generation tea farming business  decimated to growing high quality teas which are sustainable





Earl Grey is cenormanous with Downtown Abbey well basically think of your favroutite old fashioned Auntie that that is where Eral Grey sits, certain Earl Greys can be quite frankly like an overpowering Po Pourri. I'm not really if I'm honest a fan of Earl Grey I much prefer a refreshing Breakfast tea or a tongue tingling fruit tea , but if I was presented with a Williamson Earl Grey I wouldn't turn my nose up at it just so long as it had a splish of milk in it.

Model : Rollie the cat , tea sent by Williamson Tea

The First Step To University

The First Step To University

We are just beginning our journey to the world of University and I promise you it won't be posts about empty nest syndrome I am not that type of person , and anyway I will be able to Facebook him , text him and so for * insert wink emoji ( to show hipness ) Really the journey to University starts before they get to 6th when they are seeing what avenues lay before they indeed you don;t have to go to 6th form to get to University it is one of the many routes that you can take.

The first stage is going to really get an idea of career straight after GCSEs but as in our case this has been subject to change , they need to have some idea as this will have a bearing on the A levels they will take. Initially with A levels they'll choose 4 subjects with the option to drop one after the first year of A levels , currently it is looking like J will be dropping Biology but we'll see after exam results .

They will have access to more information at school then they will tell you , trying to get any information out of a teenager is like trying to get blood out of a stone . Also there will be U C A S fairs where they will be bombarded with literature from various universities all scrambling for their attention. This is hopefully where your teen will finally decide upon a career or least a degree subject they wish to study .

We've just about finished the first year of A levels and been through the trauma of exams and it's bloody hard I tell you the whole family is on edge till the exams are finished , then they launch into the start of second year of A levels before summer.

And we've just started driving lessons that is a whole level of worry and expense at the same time but teens seems to have this inner level of courage and calm they can tap into !!