Living In And Loving Life

Absolutely no problems at A&E when I mentioned I am autistic, professional staff with great care and good instructions at Derby Royal and pain killers for my back #ActuallyAutistic

And being treated with respect and not being talked down to is the bees knees , it actually makes your mood bouyant.My journey through life is much more sign posted now as I’m actually listened to and given the space to explain myself.

I was listened to from reception staff to the doctor who saw me and who kindly gave me directions not only telling me but showing me ~ fantastic. Yes there is negativity in the press and other places roundabouts about the overstretched NHS but I wanted to highlight one piece of a twinkling fairy light in the string of lights of life!

Bit of an opener for a blog post but I pull no punches in telling you about me well mostly me !

I exactly 2 months in my diagnosis and I’m doing alright I think , people can be incredibly irksome at times and this can cause me to have to reboot myself but oh life !

Live to love the life 

And love to live 

Talk your heart out to be one 

Good Night Anti-Snoring Ring that Helps With Snoring

Mr T says I snore but I can't hear it .. any way it's not about me as Mr T does snore and his snoring does disturb me greatly so I was extremely grateful when Mr T was given the opportunity to review the Good Night Anti-Snoring Ring.Mr T went into trialling this with an open mind as he does with anything except maybe the decorating although recently he has been hit by the decorating bug.


The ring uses eastern acupressure principals to reduce or allotter climate your snoring and Mr T followed the instructions to wear it on his ring finger as shown in the picture below.






The little bump needs to be placed on the inner part of your finger and you do this 30 minutes before you go to sleep.Selecting your size is very easy to do the sizes are small.medium and large.The ring fits on the smallest finger and you adjust to fit so one one of the 3 sizes will fit you.


The ring costs £30 and it comes with a a 100 % money back guarantee , the company do ask that you wear it for a minimum of 21 daysFor us it works MT T has perhaps only snored once every now and again and that is it.


For the ring to work you need to wear it correctly and if you're a heavy snorer you might need to wear 2 rings ( I am going to keep an eye and ear on Mr T is to see if this is the situation ) but the occasional snore is getting fewer and fewer now so fingers and ears crossed.

There is a FAQ questions on their website and I am extremely grateful to The Good Night people for allowing me to have more rested sleep ! and so is Mr T as he is more rested to be able to do loads of decorating!

The Writers Block And That Sea Of White

When you start writing a blog post you do so to eradicate the blank page that stares before you in so many different ways and the words they either come easily or taking a little more coxing out. And the whiteness like a blanket of snow slowly gets covered as you type or write away or scribe I like the word scribe it is so intelligent and full of history.And with words you can damn well do what you like and I am not short of words though of late my mind has been stuck on the traffic light of society and it just remembering to pause push that button and cross the road. As I write I see the white just peeking out in between the spaces ; the words they are cradled by the white. I am trying not to be intimated by the the sea of white for it only a wonder not yet told and though it is as I have said a sea of white it is also a sea of opportunity.

And as you have written the first paragraph then simply you must soldier on and write more sentences because without your sheer resilientance the rest of your words won't have any support you must support the precious words that you lay down upon the page. These words that you write you might not think that that make sense you might think that you are furtling around in the dark with no chance of a lighthouse beam to guide your ship of words to safety, keep on going and be sure of yourself.

I am writing because I want to not because I have to , you can't force the words you just have to let him come to you and being Autistic my words can get a bit back to front to at times and what I think I am saying or writing isn't want is on the page or I have actually spoken. I need that little bit of extra processing time like a super computer on a tea break and then when bam I am there fast as lightning.

As I write how I feel gets a little easier and the Autism/Aspergers is pushed aside not defining me but just part of my everyday life, when you have yourself explained it takes a while to feel your feet again ( and speaking of feet I haven't put my socks on yet and it is rather chilly out there and I have a cold ) .

There above us is magnificence in those words there is silent bravery there is heart there is soul there is me.

Tea any one ?

The Slowness Of Time

It’s 5 Am 

You can’t sleep 

You try to get back to sleep but you can’t 

You finish the internet 

It’s now 5.01 

You get up to find even your cat is asleep 

It’s not even 5.05 

You drink tea and more tea 

The cat wakes up and you do edgy band photos with it 

It’s now only 5.10 

Time is very very slow early in the morning!

And this is good because it’s a good time to reflect and one of the biggest kindnesses you can have is being kind to yourself.You have got to try and love yourself and not left the self doubt win life is really honestly too short to let it drag yourself down.

Friendship Is A Lot Like Socks

 Friendship is a lot like socks ,the oddest of pairings will and does work.

Why should some socks (friends) not be paired ? 

If we're were the odd one and you didn't get to get that special friend or friends ; then you'd feel quite left out. If you think someone is aloft, weird, unique and not running with the crowd who is to say that they couldn't be the friend that you didn't think you needed.

Opposites attract.

Give an odd pairing a chance.

It could be the new joyful lease of life that they need.

Say Hi to someone

The simplest kindnesses are everlasting.

Open that door for someone.

Thank people.

Reach out and be the the kindness in someones life just letting someone know you're there really helps.

It is anti bullying this week and I better in my life than I have been in a long time , I was bullied as a child because I was different I have Autism but no one knew it then . Children could see and sense I was different and I was bullied without bullied and hard as I tried it got worse I spoke to my parents and teachers and people did their best but my bullying followed me from school to school.With Autism it is really hard to articulate yourself and when your are bullied you end up in a tailspin and bullying can leave you without a lifetime of hurt.

I struggled to make friends because of my issues with social communication and when sometimes people did decide to be my friend it was to use me , they said horrible things behind my back . They hid my glasses then suddenly found them to get praise from the teacher , they were in a word manipulative.

Which each new school there came the hope that everything would be ok and everything would be different , I didn't understand how you were supposed to be . I didn't understand how you were meant to make friends and people just thought I was weird.I hate the name calling ,the silent treatment , the spreading of rumours like you had sometime contagious, the polls to see if people like me the physical bullying , the bullying happened outside school as well. I was beat up on the way to my piano and harpsichord lesson people could just sense and see I was different like a injured zebra I suppose.

Being Autistic I take things literally and you believe what is being said to you , someone is telling you are stupid and worthless and no one ones to be your friend then being autistic why would someone tell me something that wasn't true.


My school reports are sad there is no getting away from it and it screams that schools should have seen that was something up with my learning and done more to help me but if I can help people recognise the struggles of others then I am doing good !

I was the little girl who couldn't ballet it was just dancey and pink i was the child who loved and was lost in their thoughts in a museum.

Life continued like this well into my adulthood as being in work it was like school but with a whole new list of social rules that you had to figure out and as a result I drifted in and out of jobs .


You are not the child who cried buckets when they were bullied because you can not express your emotions this is why it is so important to have perpetual kindness and I know life isn't play sailing and the ripples of emotion cause various problems but talking and reporting is a must.

Also tomorrow is World Kindness day but let us all be kind each and every day and not just for the day , kindness should be natural and part of our being.